"During lovemaking, if a man cannot not find the right rhythm, he will easily lose his vital essence (sperm). This will result in an ejaculatory orgasm which leads to exhaustion. If it happens frequently in a short period of time, then the 100 diseases will start to develop in his body."
YU - FANG - PI - CHUN
According to Taoist philosophy, man, having all male attributes represents the Yang (+) force. The masculine principle is a lot more volatile, faster and more active than the feminine principle which represents the Yin (-) force.
The woman is more passive; her moves are calmer and slower. By comparing male sexual vigor to female eroticism the ancient texts often use metaphors of fire and water.
Fire belongs to Yang, though its action is fast and strong, it is often defeated by water, which is a predominantly Yin force.
Nowadays, control over the ejaculation is a very important element in sexual intercourse. This is the most important issue in the Taoist art of love. Let's take into account some Taoist advices:
1. Beginners should not to be too excited or too passionate, too hasty or hurried.
2. The beginner must learn to penetrate the vagina very slowly (and gently) and come out suddenly if he feels that ejaculation is imminent.
3. If he feels that the excitement increases too much, he must stop thrusting immediately and withdraw very slowly so that only 1-2 cm remain inside the vagina. He will remain completely still in this position.
Then he will breathe deeply, contract his pelvic platform muscles very strongly (the anal sphincters and the PC muscle). At the same time he must focus his mind on the process of holding back his sperm.
Thus he will sublimate and transmute the enormous force contained in the sperm into psychic, mental and spiritual energies. After this period (which can be 5 - 50 seconds), he can make some moves of gradual and prudent penetration.
If he still feels that the excitement is too much he must apply once more the method described earlier (the blocking method) and even the "three fingers" method before going back to intercourse.
The blocking method is also valid for a woman in the case where she has problems controlling her sexual energy. It will be even more efficient if both lovers use it at the same time (even if only one of them is close to having an orgasm).
4. The one who wants to control his ejaculation has to be careful not to be hasty and have a very strong tenacity.
5. The blocking method makes sexual control easier, it is very efficient but it has to be used instantly, correctly and at the right moment. It needs to take place sooner than the non-return point (when the ejaculation process has been initiated the correct moment has passed).
What is the advantage of having sexual intercourse without ejaculating? It is a natural question that all men ask from the beginning of their training to obtain control over their sexual energies. Here is what an old Taoist treaty says:
The Emperor HUANG-TI asked his master in the art of love:
"I would like to know now; what is the advantage of realizing sexual union always without ejaculating?"
His Initiator SOU-NU answered:
"If just once, a man is capable of making love without losing his seed (sperm) he will strengthen his mind and his body very much.
If he makes it twice, his hearing will be better and his sight also.
If he makes it three times, he will be healed from all sickness.
If he makes it four times, his soul will be so much quieter.
Five times and his blood circulation and heart condition will be greatly improved.
Six times and he will get strong mental power.
Seven times and a huge happiness will come to him.
Eight times and his face and body will become radiant, magnetic and charming.
Nine times and he will be younger and will live longer.
Ten times and he will be like an Immortal Genius having access to hidden, ultimate Macro cosmic worlds, develop psychic powers, mental and spiritual paranormal capacities etc.
All these are also valid for women when they can control the explosive sexual discharge. When it is not controlled it makes her lose her essential sexual potential that sustains her state of pleasure and thus her erotic ability will be greatly diminished.