Tantra does not mean only the sexual act, as how many people understand, but it has to be viewed as an art, extremely complex, and also ineffable through the ecstatic states which the two lovers have who join amorously. The accent in the tantric amorous fusion is put on the amorous sexual postures realized in the most intimate, profoundly relaxing ambience, using aphrodisiac “ingredients”, making ritualised gestures which bring a state of sacredness during amorous fusion and help the couple to realize with a great ease control of the sexual energies, applying techniques of breathing, of creative visualization, etc.
Below we will describe some amorous tantric postures which are used more often during the erotic games.
The five basic postures of spiritual amour are: woman on top, man on top, postures on the side, postures in the sitting position and postures in which the woman is seated with the back to the man. Of course there are many variations to these basic sexual postures: the standing position, standing with the head down, the “on all fours” position, etc.
In the art of tantric amour there are usually found five so-called “elaborate” sexual postures. It is talking about the oral-genital postures:
The woman standing, crouching or sitting over the man, facing him, her vagina touching his mouth.
The man standing, crouching or in a sitting position, and the woman kneeling or sitting, facing him, playing with his penis
The man and woman in the posture 69, in reciprocal oral-genital contact, woman being on top.
The man and woman in the posture 69, in reciprocal oral-genital contact, man being in top.
The man is lying down or in a sitting position; the woman is on her feet, is sitting or kneeling over him, with the back to him, so that her face is oriented toward his feet.
Men are generally excited very quickly and they often reach orgasm very quickly. In their case, they have to choose initially the posture that generates the minimum of physical stimulation, in order to permit them to perfectly control the sexual energy. The majority of Western men believe that they really have to prove their manhood, the reason that they try to be very energetic, vigorous lovers. Many times they assume the dominant role and believe they will better satisfy their lover by powerful penetration. This however makes them ejaculate before their partner is completely satisfied or even, in some cases, before reaching orgasm.
Female satisfaction represents the foundation stone in tantra. Many tantrics suggest that at the beginning of the amorous game, the man makes oral amour to the woman. One of the positions described above can us chosen for this purpose. The man has to kiss passionately the yoni of his lover, and she has to say to him what pleases her the most, guiding him, so that it is possible to experience the maximum pleasure together. In order to perfectly harmonise during the amorous act, the two lovers can look into each other’s eyes from time to time, seeking to feel empathically the way the other experiences the pleasure and joy of the erotic fusion.
Then, the woman can come on top of the man, sitting or kneeling and be penetrated by his erect lingam, teasing him. In this phase the man has to be also correctly attentive on the control of the sexual energy. He must not rise up to better penetrate his lover, but has to stay lying, making the most powerful contraction of the pelvic zone or mulabandha. This helps avoid premature ejaculation and the energetic discharge.
Tantrics accentuate the fact that the woman has to feel very free, without prejudice or sexual inhibitions, so they can enjoy to the maximum the pleasure of the amorous act. It is good that she initially adopts an active role during the amorous game with their lover. Once the woman reaches orgasm, the postures can be changed, trying however to not interrupt intimate contact, to experience simultaneously as many and as profound states of orgasm as possible.
After realizing the posture in which the woman was on top of the man, they will change the position, being easier for both to adopt sexual postures in sitting positions seated one facing the other, looking into their eyes. These postures do not permit the making of too ample movements. The woman leaves the penetration to her lover, being seated on top of him, with her legs around his trunk, her breasts and lips being easily accessible to his mouth, her back and buttocks can be easily touched by his hands. The seated postures assure a greater intimacy and a very good control over the sexual energies.
In the case of the seated tantric postures, where the woman stays in the arms of the man, facing him, she still possesses control. The woman should make the technique of mulabandha (contraction of the pelvic zone) and yoni Mudra (contraction of the vaginal muscles) in order to rhythmically grip the lover’s lingam with her yoni. In this posture the fundamental energy of the being, Kundalini Shakti, can be easily awoken and directed upwards, along the spinal column. The sensation experienced by both lovers is extremely pleasant.
From the seated postures it is very simple for the woman to lie on her back and to ask her partner to make love with her, him being on top of her. This is a posture in which the man can assume the dominant role. Spreading very wide the legs or pushing them backwards, with the knees on the head, the man can penetrate very deeply, touching intimately the vagina.
Then the two lovers can pass into a position “seated on a side”. Still being face to face, the position facilitates a complete relaxation and an intimate fusion of the two bodies. The attention can now be orientated on the breathing, each trying to absorb the breath of the other, which will lead to a state of very great intimacy and a very profound communion of the soul.
Without withdrawing, the man will turn his lover so that she comes with her back to him. This permits his lingam to touch certain zones of her yoni which are not accessible in other postures. Once this posture has been experienced for a sufficient time, the two lovers can pass with ease into the posture 69, so that they continue in a marvellous way the erotic celebration. This posture, made in the West by few couples, can facilitate the apparition of some states of orgasm extremely powerful and ample, experienced simultaneously by the two lovers.
Kamil Zvelebil, eminent European indolog made as one of his works a summary of advice which he himself received from a yogi. After he gave more details referring to the necessary objectives of a good state of health – for example, the regime based on fresh food and the necessity that food is chewed very well, sunbathing, profound and rhythmic breathing, eight hours of sleep at night, undressed and with the head towards the north, regular walks and cultivating a positive mental attitude, this yogi also spoke about eros. Here are the recommendations that he made to him: “Frequent and regular erotic games are beneficial. However, seek to master the sexual pleasure and not be its slave. Oral-genital amour is not harmful, but on the contrary – it is often advised. Visualise yourself as being Shiva, the creator, and visualise your lover as being his energy, Shakti. Enjoy his love game and sip the nectar of pleasure which flows from her yoni.
The five basic postures as well as the five “elaborate” postures have to be practiced sufficiently so that passing from one posture into another is achieved with skill. For some, the amorous games becomes an ecstatic dance, for others more “choreography” is necessary and a certain period of practice, but in the end the state of mastery in this art of love-making will be achieved.
Therefore, practice and you will become masters of the transfigurating tantric amour. What can be more pleasant other than to make love with your beloved?
Indeed, couples that will experience basic lovemaking positions when they make love will be able to have completely remarkable experiences. But it is good to keep in mind that what works very well with a lover, does not necessarily go just as well with another. We are all different from the point of view of inner manifestations, of personalities, of erotic awakening and, not the least, of the degree of sexual openness. Therefore one cannot claim that a position that provided the maximum of pleasure in an amorous relationship can trigger the same effect in another relationship.
It is true, each one of us has their favorite lovemaking positions, but in order for the lovemaking not to become boring and monotonous, it is useful that we bring something new to it. And yet, it is good to aim first to obtain good results in one or two of the basic positions, before venturing for more athletic ones or for new variations of the basic positions. Most of the couples practice only two or three favorite postures during their entire marriage. But even the small variations of those postures, done in order to improve the lovemaking, can become boring at a certain moment.
It is important to keep a balance between this conservative stability and the „liberal” openness of trying something new. With care, love and patience in experiencing, many couples can quickly find practical ways of lovemaking in such a way that both lovers will be delighted and content.
Irrespective of the sexual positions you would choose, these guidelines will help you increase the sexual pleasure during lovemaking:
- Does the elected position allow you to move freely? In the woman on top positions she can move very easily.
- Does the posture allow a deep penetration? Any position where her thighs are close to her chest allows a deep penetration.
- Or just a shallow penetration? Those positions in which the woman's legs are close to each other and stretched in the continuation of her body will allow only shallow penetration.
- Is the man able to reach the woman’s clitoris and to stimulate it by caressing it? Many women need direct clitoral stimulation.
- Is the man able to touch her breasts? Most women enjoy when their breasts are kissed and caressed.
- Can you look at your genitals? Many people are excited to watch themselves while making love. You can use mirrors placed at favorable angles.
- Does the woman have the ability to reach the man’s scrotum and anus? Unfortunately, many women do not even think about it, and too many men are too shy to ask for that.
- Does the position stimulate the G-spot? The felt sensations are extremely intense for both lovers.
In this erotic position, the woman, after she helped her lover completely lay down on the bed or a mat, sits on top of him in the squat position, on his thighs and firmly tightens her calves after she introduced his lingam sufficiently deep in her yoni. Supporting herself with her arms against her beloved’s chest, she will perform up-down, left-right movements, in order to let herself penetrated as deeply as possible. Rotating her basin as largely as possible, she enchants her lover to the maximum and intensely enjoys it herself too.
If she feels that the pleasure tends to reach a climax which could be controlled with more difficulty, then she stops and focuses along with her lover on the lifting (sublimation) of the energies. Also, for a better control, both lovers should breathe deeply and to hold the breath in retention on the full, action that will greatly facilitate the process of sublimation. The pace of the woman's movements should be kept under control and to be in agreement with the man’s power to control his sexual energy.
The approach of this position may be demanding for the woman, especially if the muscles of her thighs and calves are not well trained. Therefore, in this case, it is indicated for the woman to practice daily for a while certain exercises for the strengthening of the leg muscles such as, for example, knee bending exercises. This will allow her to easily maintain this erotic posture for a longer period of time.
None of the two lovers must forget that, if they do not make an effort of will, the pleasure of the one we love will not be satisfied. To this end, the woman must almost always pursue to contract the vaginal muscles, holding and excitingly massaging the man’s potent organ. The Tantric secret texts sustain that this can only be learned through a perseverant practice and it is accomplished excellently by sending the mysterious power of will towards her intimate muscles: "By doing, she must repeat mentally the name of the God of love, Kamadeva, to get into deep communion with the energies of the erotic happiness that lies within his huge sphere of force."
Also, the man will have to be extremely careful to control the sexual energy, since this erotic posture triggers a very strong energy that, for someone inexperienced, could lead to ejaculation and, therefore, an appropriate training is required. The man can stop the woman’s movement for a short period of time when he feels he approaches the non-return point or he may induce her the appropriate pace in order to control the energy by holding her basin gently, but firmly.
This erotic posture favors the awakening of the Kundalini energy, due to the energetic dynamism that it engages, thus leading to completely special inner experiences. We know from the yoga practice that the awakening and ascending along the spine of the fundamental energy of Kundalini Shakti, is an important step in the spiritual evolution of the practitioner. Thus, making love with transfiguration and continence can be considered a real help in the evolution of the human being on the spiritual path and, even more than that, in the case of those who have native predisposition for this, a spiritual path in itself.
The man is sitting in the lotus posture (PADMASANA) or a variant of this posture for those who are at the beginning and cannot approach it. Holding his spine straight the man gets the woman in his arms while introducing his lingam in her yoni, and she sits on him holding him by the shoulders and crossing her legs around his torso, letting herself penetrated with voluptuousness. Due to this detail, this posture that the woman adopts is called "the action of the liana": latasadhana. A highly sensuous woman, who loves her lover dearly and desires him with much love, can easily live the cervical-uterine orgasm in this posture, the most profound form of orgasm that can be experienced by a woman. The position of the erect lingam in this sexual posture allows it to penetrate right into the cervix, which leads to the experimenting of some exceptional orgasmic states in the two lovers. The woman will thus “swallow” the two extremities of the penis. Ejaculation can be successfully stopped in this way. The woman has an active role during the realization of this sexual position; she can balance her pelvis back and forth while she powerfully squeezes her lover’s lingam by contracting the vaginal muscles. In this posture, the sexual organs have a good contact, which allows the woman to be penetrated very deeply.
This posture also allows you to meditate together and in this way to integrate meditation within your amorous intercourse. Thus, the erotic intercourse can easily become a way of spiritual ascent, giving you the opportunity to live together states of amorous ecstasy.
The man is also pleasantly impressed with the movements of his beloved’s back and buttocks. In this position he can hold her breasts and massage them gently, touch her clitoris and stimulate it by caressing, or perhaps hold her thighs, realizing thus a deeper penetration. The movements of "come and go" and the circular ones can be done by both lovers and the penetration can be slow and covering the whole depth, or in force, both being extremely exciting for both woman and man.
Couples can also adopt other sexual positions of deep-penetration, for example the position in which the woman is turned with her back at him sitting on top of his thighs, or when she kneels on the bed or lets herself penetrated by his erect penis. Other variants which enhance the pleasure can be adopted by both lovers using imagination, for example, if the man sits on a chair and his beloved sits on top of him with her back at him, or both lovers are under the shower, etc.
But a maximum of pleasure does not necessarily result from a maximum of erotic stimulation. Oftentimes a couple can get more pleasure out of the postures in which they engage less sexual power but more emotional energy, when they kiss or hug. The penetration from behind when both lie on the same side, like two spoons stacked in a set, is also very romantic. The woman turns her head towards her lover who kisses her with love, while he comforts her breasts with one hand and her clitoris with the other. In this position, their bodies have the largest area of contact, which brings a plus of pleasure and joy.
The happiness of a human being who loves is also the joy and the pleasure of the other human being who lets herself/himself be loved and loves without measure in return. Practicing this posture, with sexual continence, will make the woman experience a complete fulfillment and a great happiness, and the man attain a state of flourishing health, due to the disappearance of a hundred "sufferings".
For the practicing of this posture, which is in itself a wonderful game, the man sits on an armchair with his legs spread. His lover then comes on top of him hugging his thighs, facing him. Her feet firmly rest against the armchair. She is the one who has the initiative, moving delicately for a while, then switching to more vigorous movements, leaning at the same time in his arms. The lover can teasingly play with her yoni above and on top of her lover’s body.
In another variant of this posture, the woman will stretch her right leg (in our example) over the man’s right leg, to experiment with a richer range of profound erotic experiences.
In the amorous postures with side penetration, the elephant posture is one of the most pleasurable for the woman because it favors a deep penetration and the stimulation of the cervix, thus facilitating the experiencing of some deep and delicious erotic states of cervical-uterine orgasm. The man can be very attentive to his beloved so that by moving her upper buttock (right hip) to reach the most sensitive area of her YONI, concentrating thus on the pleasure she experiences in the cervix. In addition to the exciting deep strokes that he realizes, the man can caress his lover with very much tenderness throughout the body, back, breasts, thighs, intensifying even more the orgasmic experience. The posture can be done symmetrically (both sides), balancing in this way the circulation of the subtle erotic energy in the body, for as a complete and fulfilling amorous experience as possible.
The woman can carry out a series of alternative movements with subtle beneficial echoes in this posture, consisting in the alternate lifting of one leg or the other on her lover’s shoulders, so that in the balance of these movements it is created a cycle of stimulation of the subtle energy circulation for the two lovers, both capturing thus, during the practice of this posture, an increased occult benefic power; the woman will reach thrilling states of pleasure which will impregnate the depths of her being and the man will also feel deeply and empathically his lover’s erotic feelings.
The man lies down on his back and she sits on top facing away from him, leaning on her feet, holding a vertical trunk. She moves up and down with refinement and sensuality.
Her movements have an original sensuality, free, wild, and full of light from inside, that her lover cannot have enough of. He has the supernatural feeling that her sensuality is endless, her movement seems, in an occult way, eternal, that every nuance of it, generated by this unfettered pleasure, has another sensual tempo.In this position, communication through the eyes is of an overwhelming tenderness and the man can admire and caress the woman's body, bathed in the visual pleasure offered. The tenderness of the touches will enhance the sensuality and voluptuousness of her movements, otherwise quite space conditioned.
The woman will be in total control of the angle and depth of penetration. She will lead her lover’s lingam towards the cervix, sharing together the great and perfectly controlled pleasure.
For those couples who successfully merge the games of YIN (-) and YANG (+) energies in their act of making love, while also maintaining control of these energies fully enjoying their orgasmic energies that are triggered, the posture of the Relaxed Arch will become one of the most delicious postures always ready to gratify the intensity of the amorous feelings and also the love and intimacy between the two lovers.
For those exuberant and eager to taste the novel sensuality of this posture, the simple but persistent training in acquiring the necessary flexibility will be fully rewarded. Even a few minutes of making love in the posture of the Relaxed Arch will be memorable and will have extraordinary effects. The posture allows the stimulation of the anterior wall of the vagina so that all the pleasure points located in this area will receive a special "treatment". The woman’s G-spot is caressed passionately and gratified by the relaxed Arch of Love for its "healing" and full of bliss virtues.