One of the most common causes for the failure of many erotic dates is the fact that one or both lovers are ignorant regarding some essential aspects of eroticism. In the following, we present some of these:
NEVER GO DIRECTLY TO INTERCOURSE A man does not need too much preparation for an erotic act to begin. He just needs to look at his partner, touch and embrace her and bum! he is ready for intercourse.
A woman needs the so-called foreplay (the man also, sometimes). Many men think that prelude is something limited to a kiss, a touch of her breasts and that's about it... It is true that there are women with greater sexual appetite, who are easily excitable. They can skip that preparative, but not necessarily always. However, most women need a lot of small "attentions" to lead them to pleasure.
WHAT IS PRELUDE?
Now, I'm sure that all of you are familiar with the term. However, prelude implies many things, each according to the specific needs and moods of a given couple. Fortunately, there is no such thing as a standard recipe for all couples. But there are a few rules that you should keep in mind if you want to offer and to receive pleasure:
LOVEMAKING REQUIRES A SPECIAL ATMOSPHERE
It's not about turning your room into a theatre scene. Some details would be enough to transform a common date into a loving tender encounter. For example, relaxing, pleasant music, a bouquet of flowers, candles, incense sticks, etc.
The bedroom has to be more than merely a place to sleep. With some effort, a lot of thought and care, even the most "ordinary" bedroom can become a love nest with all the positive effects derived from this.
We suggest that you read our articles Making your bedroom more erotic and The secrets of ambience in the erotic game in order to get some tips about ways to transform your bedroom into a temple of love.
UNDRESSING - A TWO-LOVERS PLAY
Each of the two should get close to the other. You shouldn't expect that he does all the work… The way you unbutton his shirt can have a very important and sexy effect on your lover's appetite. Moreover, the woman can turn this simple act of taking her clothes off into a ritual of abandoning herself for the real, cosmic and pure love, which may grant her lover happiness and self-content.
Read our articles The role of clothes in foreplay and The story of striptease if you want to know how to celebrate your nudity.
YOU SHOULD COMMUNICATE THROUGH WORDS
You should whisper...but what? Not words that you've read from books, of course, but tender words from the bottom of your heart. Women receive happily and with emotion her lover's tender and admiring remarks, words that are meant to encourage and also to create a more intimate atmosphere between the two. Read our article regarding on What to talk about when you make love.
WHAT SHOULD YOU SMELL LIKE?
Undoubtedly, your smell should be fresh, clean, discrete perfume. To smell good is a matter of elegance and refinement. Moreover, from a traditional point of view, perfume is considered a magical love potion. From the very beginning, the creation of perfume was inspired by the complex relationship, the desire, and the passion between man and woman. If women want to know more about perfumes they should read our article Perfume, a compulsory partner.
ANY EROTIC GAME CAN TAKE PLACE IF BOTH LOVERS AGREE TO IT
If one of you comes up with a new, and perhaps kind of unusual idea about engaging an erotic play and the other is reticent, you should be understanding and give that idea up immediately. Otherwise not only your date is ruined, but your whole relationship might also be affected. But you might try a sensual massage or lovemaking without intercourse.
Read our articles Making love without intercourse and The art of making love divinely without intercourse.
DON'T BE SKIMPY WITH YOUR KISSES!
They are, along with your caresses, the essential part of the sexual prelude. Become a master of kissing is our advice for a wonderful foreplay.
YOU SHOULD KNOW HOW TO CARESS
Caresses turn on the skin's sexual sensitivity of both lovers. Be careful! Touching or massaging (lightly!) the erogenous zones should take place in light, small, rhythmical motions! We have something for you regarding this subject, too:
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Women's breasts are not only an essential attribute of femininity, but also the richest, most subtle and most sensitive instrument of erotic emotions. Caressing and tickling the nipples makes all the nervous reflexes come to life and prepares the genitals for the sexual act itself. The more delicate the caress, the stronger the e4ffect.
Brutal caresses paralyze the woman's sensitivity, instead of exciting her, just like a powerful sound makes you deaf for a while. There might be an exception: for women who have corpulent body hard pinch might have results as good as delicate caresses.
Sometimes, when very excited, some men have the tendency of squeezing the woman's breasts painfully and biting them as if they were apples. These men should not forget that excited breasts are as sensitive to traumas as their own testicles. So do not bite your lover's breasts and do not squeeze them hard, unless, of course, asked to.