The external genitalia (consequently the visible part of the sexual organs) bear the name vulva.
The pubis (or Mons pubis) represents the frontal outline of the vulva, and it forms a small, curved, triangle-shaped cushion. It is usually made up of fatty tissue and covered by hair.
At its other side, the vulva is delineated by the perinea muscles, which separate it from the anus, and sustain the organs in the lower part of the abdomen.
The vulva is made up of the large lips (or labia majora) which cover and protect its other more fragile components.
The small lips (or labia minora) placed below labia majora, unite towards the front in order to form a sort of cap meant to protect the clitoris.
The inner part of the labia, both majora and minora is the vestibule, is the interior of the vulva. The vagina and the urinary orifice (also named the urinary meatus) open up towards the back of this central concavity.
The urinary orifice is placed between the clitoris and vagina and therefore, it is sometimes difficult to notice.
In virgins the vaginal orifice is covered by a membranous fold of skin known as the hymen; after sexual intercourse only fragments of the hymen remain along the margins of the opening.
LABIA MAJORA - THE LARGE LIPS
The labia majora are two thick folds of skin running from the mons pubis to the anus. The outer sides of the labia are covered with pigmented skin, sebaceous (oil-secreting) glands, and after puberty, coarse hair.
The inner sides are smooth and hairless, with some sweat glands. Beneath the skin layer, there is mostly fatty tissue with some ligaments, smooth muscle fibres, nerves, and blood and lymphatic vessels. The labia majora correspond to the scrotum in the male.
The sudoriferous glands give off a smell that stimulates sexual appetite. Inside the large lips there are two glands named Bartholin's glands; the substances produced here lubricate the entrance of the vagina during intercourse.
The labia majora have the following functions: to protect the vulva from external aggression and maintain the necessary humidity.
LABIA MINORA - THE SMALL LIPS
They are placed underneath labia majora and are two thin folds of smooth, hairless skin. Their aspect is different from one woman to another, in terms of texture and color (this may vary from light pink to brown), they may be smooth or indented, covered or not by the major labia.
Inside the small lips, on each side of the vestibule, there are the vestibular bulbs, two cavernous bodies that become swollen with blood during arousal.
This process generates another - the swelling of the small lips, which may double or even triple their thickness.
Generally, the women who have their labia minora developed are extremely sensuous.
The minor labia have the following functions: to ensure a further protection of the inner genitalia, to increase the sensitivity to touch in cases of sexual excitement (due to the sanguine vessels and sensitive nervous endings).
Sometimes it is difficult to discover the clitoris, as it is almost entirely covered by the fold of the labia minora, which leave out only its tip, or the gland, resembling to a small button.
The clitoris is capable of some enlargement caused by increased blood pressure during sexual excitement and is considered homologous (comparable in structure) to the male penis, only on a much smaller scale.
Unlike the penis, the clitoris does not contain the urethra for excretion of urine; it does have a rounded elevation of tissue at the tip known as the glans clitoridis.
The labia minora. are known as the prepuce (or foreskin) of the clitoris. Like the glans penis, the glans clitoridis contains nerve endings and is highly sensitive to tactile stimulation. It functions as an important "organ of the woman's pleasure".
Any virgin feels a certain emotion when her intimate organs are touched. This is not equivalent to the fright of being penetrated. Love is like a red-letter day and the beginning has its own mystery. Sometimes, an act that can be magical leaves a grievous memory.
There are women for whom making love is a torture, because of the state of distress they felt at the first sexual contact. But the fear a virgin feels when thinking of being deflowered is rather based on prejudices about sexuality than on reality. Let's see together the causes and the solutions for this problem:
Q: Many girls are afraid of "the first time". Is this a fright of being penetrated?
A: Unfortunately, there is. Usually, it is caused by the fact that the girls are not familiar to their own body and because there are frequent cases when their lovers are not too experienced, either.
The fear a girl can feel when thinking at being penetrated is rather based on prejudices about sexuality than on reality; the bleeding is not too abundant when the hymen is broken. Thus, many of them think that the hymen, the thin membrane that covers the vaginal orifice, is a great obstacle in the way of penetration.
From a strict anatomical point of view, this is not a dramatic, painful or bloody event, because the hymen is elastic enough to stretch without breaking. And even if it breaks, it is so thin that it seldom causes pain. On the other hand, in this region, the irrigation with blood is reduced.
In very rare cases, the hymen is very resistant, which makes the penetration difficult, especially when the woman starts her sexual life late. The later a woman starts her sexual life, the less elastic her hymen is. This region is responsive to pressure, especially to that exerted by the penis, which gives birth to sensations of pleasure.
Q: Is the absence of the hymen equivalent to the loss of virginity?
A: Not always. If during the first sexual contact, the young woman doesn't bleed, this doesn't mean that she wasn't virgin.
The structure of the hymen is different from a woman to another. It can break or stretch very easily, so that it is hard to tell, even for a physician, whether the respective woman is a virgin or not.
In fact, except for some rare cases, the hymen is already partly pierced; there is an orifice through which the menstrual blood is eliminated. Some performance sportsmen may even have the hymen membrane totally broken, only because of the ample movements they make.
A young girl's orifice has a one-finger diameter. The use of vaginal swab leads to its enlargement and the hymen may break before the first sexual contact.
Q: Are there some symptoms of the fright of penetration?
A: Yes, these symptoms do exist. In most cases, the insufficient lubrication of the vagina is the one that makes the penetration difficult and painful. Fortunately, this situation can be easily remedied.
An easy solution is the use of a lubricant bought from any chemist's shop. A natural one is though indicated (even the saliva can be used). There are some rare cases when the fright of penetration can cause an automatic and spontaneous contraction of the vagina.
This phenomenon, called vaginismus, cannot be controlled by the woman and makes the sexual contact impossible. The woman who suffers from vaginismus cannot stand even the gynaecologist's examination.
This anomaly is often the consequence of a repressive education, which causes a feeling of guilt in connection with sexuality; in other cases, it may be caused by some traumatic and painful experiences of the past.
Q: How can a woman recover from vaginismus?
A: It is absolutely necessary that the woman who suffers from vaginismus see a gynaecologist. He will establish whether the cause of vaginismus is pathological (an infection or a congenital malformation etc.) or not.
If the cause is of a psychological nature, the woman should see a sexology specialist. Discussion and relaxation exercises are efficient in 80 percents of these cases. However, the vagina is an elastic organ, which dilates, in order to receive the erect penis of a man.
Q: What remedies are recommend for awakening of the erotic pleasure?
A: It is the daily rhythm, the absence of communication between parents and children that increase the number of girls with sexual problems.
Some methods of harmonization should be used, as any erotic unfulfillment may influence in a negative way a woman's whole life. Let's make the first steps:
The First Steps in Becoming a Sensual Woman:
Start with a warm bath or relax for 15 minutes. Then, within the intimacy of your room or in the bath, do the 7 gestures that will open you sexually:
1. With the help of a mirror, examine attentively your genital organs, and then separate the labia in order to observe better the vaginal orifice.
2. Touch the entrance into the vagina with the help of a finger, the index, for example.
3. Moisten the finger and introduce its tip into the vagina, bending your bust. Get used to the new sensation for some minutes.
4. Now push the finger deeper into the vagina, bending continuously.
5. If you feel that the muscles of the vagina contract, stop; try to contract them consciously around the finger, then relax them again. Do this exercise for a few times, in order to check your control over the vaginal muscles. Thus, your anguish will disappear.
6. Repeat the exercise four or five times, deepening the finger gradually into the vagina. Whenever you feel any sensation of discomfort, breathe deeply.
7. Now, you can introduce two fingers, but, previously, lubricate abundantly the vagina. Do this progressively. Every time you resume this exercise, introduce the fingers deeper and deeper.
Practicing these methods daily, for at least 20 days, you will be able to amplify your sensuality, and to have some successful amorous experiences.
In Western culture vaginal exercises are almost unknown. They are regarded as something not to be taken seriously. We can learn a lot about feminine secrets if we examine Oriental culture.
In ancient China women were initiated in some special methods to strengthen the vaginal muscles. As time passed, the secret of this practice remained in the Royal Palace and was taught only to the queen and the concubines. Many women who mastered the techniques experienced very good health, remaining young and bountiful with sexual organs in old age as tight and resilient as those of a young woman. Some believe that the queen and the concubines practiced these techniques in order to please the king while making love. Originally, however, these methods were implemented for improving health, both physically and spiritually, since these exercises provide more power to the vagina muscles to focus on the sexual energy inward and then transform it into a more elevated kind of energy (such as affective energy, mental energy, spiritual energy).
NOW, IT'S TIME FOR PRACTICE.
FOLLOW THIS SIMPLE EXERCISE EVERY DAY AND YOU WILL SEE THE RESULTS:
1. After you take a shower prepare a tub of warm clean water.
2. Lie back with your feet on the edges of the bathtub.
3. Relax the vagina muscles totally so that the water can enter the vagina.
4. Contract the muscles strongly to force the water out with a noticeable spurt.
5. Eight such relaxations and contractions are recommended daily.
BE CAREFUL: When you first attempt this exercise it can be done with relative ease, but it gets more and more difficult as the level of interest decreases with the passage of time. You should remember that you will become a special woman for all your lovers by practising this simple exercise.