Mouths are almost as complex as eyes. A large percentage of our brain is allocated to interpreting signals from, and directing the behaviour of, our lips and tongue. We often define people's characters according to their mouths, describing them with expressions such as tight-lipped or mealy-mouthed, or as having a stiff upper lip, a false smile, a sensuous mouth, hot lips and so on.
Pigments applied to the lips have been used to enhance feminine beauty for at least 5000 years. As with the application of other cosmetics, colouring the lips sends a non-verbal signal of arousal, which evokes a particularly strong reaction in men. It is true that actual bodily arousal in both men and women leads to more blood flowing to the lips, making them redder, yet in most cultures today it is only the women wear lipstick, lending weight to the hypothesis that colouring the lips mimics the increased colouring that occurs in the female genitals when a woman is sexually aroused. The inner labia actually do become bright red just prior to orgasm .
In the same way, wet lips seem to mimic the increased lubrication of the female genitals during sexual arousal. Thus many lipsticks are glossy to make the lips appear constantly wet, as if just licked. Licking the lips is at the extreme end of non-verbal sexual signalling with the mouth and tongue. When exaggerated or blatantly done, it looks lecherous and uninviting. Done subtly, it sends a clear unspoken message of attraction. The latter effect can be achieved by licking the lips while the other person is visually distracted or by employing one hand as a momentary shield to hide the lips for a moment as they are licked. A sensuous extension of this is to use a single finger like a lipstick applicator.
Alternatively, tasting food and drink provides the acceptable excuse for licking lips and gives ample opportunity for sending arousing signals to a potential paramour. Men have described being brought to a state of near orgasm simply by watching a woman eat certain foods suggestively. The sensuality of many foods - particularly the texture and the juiciness of certain fruits, for example - and the eating of food with the hands and the subsequent licking of the fingers allows for a full display of sexual confidence and competence. When we use our mouth like this we are virtually advertising our talents and hinting at what might be in store for a potential lover. There are many ways a woman can take food off her fingers, ranging from the highly erotic to the downright terrifying!
For demonstrating finesse, the most effective technique is the slight wetting of the lips using the darting tip of the tongue. For women who choose not to wear lipstick, there are many products on the market that gloss the lips with moisture, including flavoured balms that anoint the lips with seductive aromas.
Whatever the shape of your lips, their volume increases when you become sexually aroused. Blood causes them to engorge, increasing their sensitivity dramatically as if preparing them for kissing, and again mimicking the genitals. A number of celebrated fashion models and actresses in the late 1980s had their lips injected with silicone in order to send a non-verbal signal of permanent sexual arousal. As with other artificial beauty-enhancing processes, this treatment has the detrimental effect of robbing women of choice. Remember, it is choice that gives us freedom, power and control over our sexual non-verbal communications.
ANALYSE YOUR LIPS
Examine your lips in a mirror. Are they narrow and colourless, fleshy and soft, firm and dark, or cracked and chapped? Are your lips quite evenly shaped or very asymmetrical? Do you bite them a lot, and if you do, does it look attractive when you do it? Are you a very mouth-oriented woman? Do you touch your lips a lot with your fingers, or other objects like pens? Are you very sensuous when it comes to tasting your food and drink? Do you savour tastes in a sexual way? Have you learned to smell using your mouth and tongue as a powerful addition to your nose? These are all important questions designed to make you more aware of your own mouth and how important it is in receiving non-verbal sensuous signals and in sending them to other people.
Now, you know what to do with your lips in order to express more sensuality.